“An open-door policy doesn’t do much for a closed mind.” — Bob Nelson
If you’re looking for a binary answer, keep looking. It’s not one or the other. It’s both.
At times it serves us well to be guarded and closed, at other times it serves us better to be vulnerable and open.
The trick is to learn when, where, how, and with whom to be which.
It’s OK if you decide for yourself that you want to be one-dimensional in this particular case. I’m sure you’re not that way in all aspects of your life. However, you’re going to have to deal and live with the consequences of that choice.
Opportunities will be closed to you if you choose to live your life that way.
On the other hand the same is true for people who live out their emotions all the time and don’t know when it’s better to close down.
Not everyone should be privy to our innermost thoughts and feelings. What I think happens if you’re closed is that people feel like they’re giving and sharing a lot while you don’t pay them in kind.
In the larger scheme of things it doesn’t really matter except to you and the people you interact with.
Personally I find that striking a balance between the two modes yields better results for me.
At the same time there are plenty of people who lean heavily in those two directions who’ve experienced a happy and rewarding life. However, if you listen closely to their stories they’ve often have to overcome, what I feel are, unnecessary challenges and drama along the way.
I’m sure you’ll find what works best for you.
Just curious, which do you default into? How has that affected you?
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