“If you’re speaking of love, you really must include the element of uncertainty — and perhaps it’s best approached as the art of constant maintenance.”
– Twyla Tharp
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the need for regular updates and “maintenance work” in our communication. Whether it’s with colleagues, clients, partner, friends or family.
Often we’re lulled into this sense of having discussed and agreed on things being a certain way.
Sure, in a company you can set your priorities and values. But there’s also a need for people to be reminded of them from time to time. Much like people they’re also subject to change.
Sometimes it’s out of practicality, sometimes it’s simply due to the passage of time.
Just because we at one time or another felt like something was important to us it doesn’t mean we’re always going to feel the same.
That one became quite clear when I recently read through my journal (just call it what it is, it’s a diary!) from 2004. While some things are the same there’s a ton of things I thoughts, values and priorities that’ve changed. In some cases I’ve even completely shifted to the opposite view.
The more I’ve had regular communications with people about what’s important and what’s not the closer, more understanding and adaptable we’ve all become.
This shouldn’t be taken for granted though. While it’s easy to think the matter is settled and slip into complacency, the work is never finished.
It requires constant maintenance.
Have a kick-ass ₢eative day!