“I think the number one safe haven where people put their money is to invest in yourself first.”
— Hill Harper
You know the comparison people use between putting yourself first and putting your oxygen mask on first before helping others?
It’s a pretty “trite-and-true” comparison.
Sometimes we’re so busy helping others that we forget to help ourselves. When we do that we’re of little to no use to anybody.
The same holds true when we hit an impasse with people. We’re both holding our breath in the hopes that the other one either gives up or passes out.
What do we do when we find ourselves playing a zero sum game?
Some people find this kind of a challenge good. In certain cases it might be.
However, in most cases neither party gets the benefit of the other person’s insights and ideas.
What’s the sense in playing a game where there are only losers? Perhaps the best thing is to simply walk away.
It’s nothing personal. All it does is open up opportunities for both people to find more productive exchanges of ideas, and partnerships where we can grow and get to where we want to go.
This doesn’t give us a free pass to act like selfish, egotistical (Hihih, you said “tistical”!) assholes. It just gives us the right to respect ourselves, our time and our values.
In what cases has it been more beneficial for you to leave a conversation that’s headed nowhere? When has it been better to stay the course?
Have a kick-ass ₢eative day!