“You lose a lot of time, hating people.”
— Marian Anderson
Are you the type of person who usually tries to keep things positive and upbeat?
Well, I am. And I worry a little about it.
The reason I worry is because it sometimes feels like I might be using the positivity to push aside legitimate issues.
How? By excusing them or putting too much of a positive spin on things that in fact are bullshit. Bullshit that noone should put up with.
That’s why I was so happy to see John Oliver talk about ScreamIntoTheVoid.com on “Last Week Tonight”.
But once I had some time to reflect on it a bit more I wasn’t so sure that it was the best solution to a pretty common problem.
Sure, it’s great for those who would otherwise release their frustrations in unproductive and hurtful ways. The internet is a perfect place to do that at a safe distance.
You’re basically unleashing on an inanimate object. If you actually had to face the other person while saying these things the interaction would go a little bit differently.
While screaming into the void lets us release the frustration without necessarily harming the other person it still gives into the behavior.
Is that really something we want to feed?
I’m not saying you should let it fester inside. Acknowledging the fact that we’re feeling hurt and that we might even hate the other is OK, but after that we need to jujutsu the shit out of that energy and put it to good use.
Perhaps by figuring out ways of improving the interaction or situation rather than thinking up creative ways of killing the other person.
What strategies do you use to cope with anger, disappointment, resentment or full on hatred?
Let me know in the comments & hit me up on Twitter.
Have a kick-ass ₢eative day!