“Everything becomes a little different as soon as it is spoken out loud.”
– Herman Hesse
I was listening to a boss talk about her issues regarding one of the employees. While I understood her concern I could not figure out why she would so openly talk about it in earshot of the other employees. Sure, the guy wasn’t there but still it didn’t sit quite right with me.
I’d been there several months earlier and the same issues were raised then. That time in a seperate room. Once we went back out in the office I realized that you could probably hear what we were speaking about through the walls. I figured that the guy we were discussing heard what was said based on his demeanour.
I tried to steer the conversation into a more constructive space, I guess she felt I didn’t really approve of the things she was saying since she said: “Hey, I’m just thinking out loud…”
I’d mentioned the power of verbalizing your thoughts to make them clearer rather than having them bounce around in your head. However, this was taking it somewhere else. This was taking it to the dickosphere.
Think about it. If you were an employee at a company and you heard your boss talk openly about one of your colleagues “faults”, how would that make you feel?
Well, assuming you like the colleague. But even if you don’t, how does it contribute anything constructive?
This kind of behaviour usually leads to employees not feeling safe at work. Especially since they could very well be the next one on the chopping block. An added bonus is that since people will be on their toes there’s a fear that having a differing opinion might cause them to fall out of favor.
So, is it bad to talk out loud and figure your issues out? Nope, it’s not even bad to be horribly blunt about your feelings and frustrations as long as they’re expressed in the proper context and space. Which is followed by some serious reflection on possible solutions.
Recently I was observing a doctor who was talking out loud as she was going through the process, I found it very instructive. She said it made her focus on which step she was on so that she didn’t rush and get ahead of herself.
Also, a Twitch streamer explained how some in his audience had told him that they liked how he commented on everything he did. They said It made the stream feel really alive and that they learned a lot about his process while playing games.
He wasn’t really aware of it himself but when he thought about it he said that he’s not so much doing it for them as he is doing it to clarify his actions to himself.
How often do you talk over issues out loud to yourself? Have you found it productive? Or just plain silly?
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