What a liberation to realize that the ‘voice in my head’ is not who I am. ‘Who am I, then?’ The one who sees that. – Eckhart Tolle
As we were sitting in the café discussing music and life in general the producer mentioned that one of his producer friends had started getting into Eckhart Tolle. Naturally we got into a conversation about the ego and how we’ve been shaped by the need to feel in control etc.
I started thinking about when I listened and read some of his works. It felt like he had a valid point but that it wasn’t the entire solution. It’s clear that he’s setting an example ny the way he lives his life. But isn’t the ego there for a reason?
While thinking about it I looked at some of the most “successful” people I knew of who did in fact have huge egos to boot. Some were more or less driven by them. Then I saw this little quote:
Power over others is weakness disguised as strength. – Eckhart Tolle
That required some further reflection. While it’s true that we probably want a sense of certainty when we exercise power over others, is that all there is to it?
The producer made the great comparison: “Being led by our ego is like having the donkey ride us.”
However, some of the people I studied seemed shrewd. Like they knew when to use their ego as a way of communicating what was in the best interest of the people around them.
If the people didn’t get the message by reasoning then power, charisma and influence could be used instead.
Then the moral question of morality comes into play. Is it right?
Short answer: “Dunno.”
We’d like to think that it is if it’s in the people’s best interest but noone can say for sure until the results are tallied.
The only thing I know is that it’s there and as long as it’s not riding us it’s up to each and every one of us to either use it or lose it!