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STFU

“Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you’d have preferred to talk.” – Doug Larson

I was helping an artist who’d been a little stressed after a long string of shows. After our talk she asked how the book was coming along. I told her about the editing and rearranging and about potential additions. Also how glad I was to be surrounded by fellow creatives like her who gave me input and support.

She smiled and said she didn’t feel particularly creative at the moment. I smiled back and could’ve just taken it as a passing comment. I was eager to talk more about the writing process but it felt like there was something she wanted to talk about.

We Need To Talk

Guess the cat’s out of the bag.

I asked her why she felt like that and she explained that it had taken a lot out of her to go through the same routine show after show for so long. There were more shows coming after a short break but she was secretly hoping that something else would come along. Something more creative.

Feeling that the discussion was going a little negative she quickly changed the topic. I went along with it since I didn’t want to pry. It seemed like she didn’t want to go deeper into the subject at the moment.

Replaying the situation later I knew what I had to do next time we met. I should ask her to be really specific about the other stuff she’d like to happen and maybe set up a meeting to talk about that issue. Otherwise we might end up treating the symptoms instead of the cause.

Symptoms

Pass the gas, please!

I remember hearing her speak a couple of years ago about her career, how she lit up at certain parts. Especially about the amazing collaborations and opportunities she’d gotten. She really does have a passion for music and creativity, but a lot of the times it leads her into pretty rigid forms of expression that pull in the reins a little too much.

I’m still glad I took the time to listen even though we both had other things to do at the moment. I hope we get a chance to hash it out real soon.

So, today’s lesson has been: “Shut up and listen!”.

Even if you feel like you’d rather talk about your stuff you might end up learning a lot more about the other person and yourself if you stop and take the time to listen.

Listen Megaphone

I got four letters for you: STFU!

“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.” – Ernest Hemingway

“There is a difference between listening and waiting for your turn to speak.” – Simon Sinek

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