“I just like being a kid. I enjoy it, I don’t want to grow up.” – Pharrell Williams
How often do you get in touch with the kid inside you?
Most of the time we keep busy with our jobs, running errands and “decompressing”. When do we get to just PLAY?
Even people who have creative jobs and get to “play” all day do it with a specific purpose.
Do you remember what your favorite toy or activity was as a kid? Make a list of ’em! If you can, get a hold of them and just play around for a while. It might help you get in touch with something and someone you haven’t met in a while.
A while back I read a book about attachment theory. One of the case studies included a patient who was trying to get in touch with his inner child. When he described how the child just sat there quiet I was moved to tears. He’d been ignoring that part of himself for so long that the child had basically just given up trying to make himself heard.
This is one of the saddest things i’ve heard. Not just because i’ve done it myself but because I suddenly saw how many people in the world do this.
Ask your inner child how they feel about a certain thing in your life right now. Remember that part of you is a grown up and another part of you is still that child. They want to be heard, they need to be heard. Listen closely, they’ll help you be the person you want to be.
Look, it’s OK to be an adult. It’s fine to have a career, discuss serious political issues and balance the budget. But we need another kind of balance too. We need to stop judging ourselves when we clearly feel like being silly, playful and childlike. What happens when we fall in love? We act stupid as hell, right? That’s the kid. That’s when they come out to play.
We grow up, we grow old. That’s inevitable. But take a look in the backseat. Is the kid sitting there quiet? Play 20 questions, bring out the Lego’s or close your eyes and give them a hug.
They’ve missed you and you’ve probably missed them too.
There are still some good quotes available at the kids table!
“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.” – Pablo Picasso
“Anybody with artistic ambitions is always trying to reconnect with the way they saw things as a child.” – Tim Burton
“I am just a child who has never grown up. I still keep asking these ‘how’ and ‘why’ questions. Occasionally, I find an answer.” – Stephen Hawking
“Caring for your inner child has a powerful and surprisingly quick result: Do it and the child heals.” – Martha Beck
“You can be childlike without being childish. A child always wants to have fun. Ask yourself, ‘Am I having fun?’.” – Christopher Meloni
“Every child dances, and then you learn not to.” – Mark Morris
“The worst thing you can do to a kid is tell them that their dreams are invalid.” – Juliette Lewis
“I think who you are in school really sticks with you. I don’t ever feel like the cool kid at the party, ever. It’s like, ‘Smile and be nice to everybody, because you were not invited to be here’.” – Taylor Swift
“The secret of genius is to carry the spirit of the child into old age, which mean never losing your enthusiasm.” – Aldous Huxley
“Life loves to be taken by the lapel and told: ‘I’m with you kid. Let’s go’.” – Maya Angelou