“We get so much in the habit of wearing disguises before others that we finally appear disguised before ourselves.” – Francois de La Rochefoucauld
What’s your go-to excuses for not going for what you want? Don’t you believe you deserve it? Don’t you think you can?
We tell ourselves things like “It’s not that bad”, “I just have to get this done” or “Tomorrow’s going to be different”. The days turn into weeks, weeks into months, months into years. Then we get there. To that point where we almost break down and cry. Is this all there is? Is it ever going to get better?
We passively hope that someone or something is going to come along and save us. I’ll save you the trouble. Nobody’s coming.
Then comes that point when we’ve had it. There’s this boiling sensation in our gut and body. That’s when it breaks through.
Finally! Now we’re getting somewhere. This energy leads to action.
You’re not sitting on your butt, playing the victim, feeling sorry for yourself. We let this happen. Now we have to deal with it.
What we need to do is to direct this energy towards the place we want to go. Get clear about what you want. If things or people are standing in your way, negotiate with them. If they won’t budge, find another way.
There’s a reason you feel so intensely. Things have gotten so bad that it makes you physically sick of it.
When we’re in the previous state of “woe is me” or just tolerating stuff, we’re actually “only” suffering psychologically. This leads to physical symptoms but our bodies are built to withstand temporary unease. Prolong that unease and… Yeah… It’ll eff you up in ways you can’t imagine.
Now that you’re finally there you’ll go for the gold. Ain’t nothing gonna break your stride. Man, what a feeling! Woooh!
Until… You hit the next plateau. Things are comfortable. Let’s stay here for a while. Then that nagging feeling comes again. The same excuses reappear. A pattern? Fo’ sho’.
You know that quote by Einstein “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”?
Yup. That’s us. Doing the same thing all over again.
If we’re lucky we see it quicker and quicker each time. Then one day, as soon as that feeling starts coming over us we know “It’s go-time baby, movin’ on up!”.
The world is waiting for you to share your gifts and talents. Nobody’s coming to save you. Stand up for who you are and what you want to get out of life.
You’ve waited long enough. Touch your dreams.
Quotes from people who FINALLY realized the truth!
“For some reason I did something where I realized I could get a reaction. That was when I broke out of my shell at school, because I really didn’t have any friends or anything like that and I just kind of was going along, and then finally I did this zany thing, and all of a sudden I had tons of friends.” – Jim Carrey
“It’s very liberating when you finally realize it’s impossible to make everyone like you.” – John Mayer
“You’ve got to learn your instrument. Then, you practice, practice, practice. And then, when you finally get up there on the bandstand, forget all that and just wail.” – Charlie Parker
“What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be.” – Ellen Burstyn
“In the depth of winter I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer.” – Albert Camus
“The wise man does at once what the fool does finally.” – Niccolo Machiavelli