“Life is never fair, and perhaps it is a good thing for most of us that it is not.” – Oscar Wilde
There’s a lot we’d like to be different in the world. People, politics, TV, music etc.
Why can’t it be this way or that way?
It’s that way because all the things that’ve happened in the past have led it to where it is. But it can be changed. You just can’t force it.
In Malcolm Gladwell’s book “Outliers” we get to go a bit deeper into the underlying issues that can cause “unfair advantages”. If we start to understand WHY the playing field isn’t even we can start to get to the heart of the issue. Maybe even find other ways to reach our goals despite, or in some cases because of, the disadvantages.
It’s unfair and we can’t force a change, so now what?
Focus on changing yourself. If you can’t change the rules you’ll have to find loopholes and use them to your advantage or simply choose not to play. Make up your own game and let others join YOU!
I’ve found that the easiest way to be miserable is to let other peoples actions dictate how you feel. How we feel and react Is noone else’s responsibiltiy but ours.
“But he did this and this to me!”. Yes, and it’s terrible that people do awful things to each other. It can’t be undone. But is it going to dictate and define who I am capable of being and what I can accomplish? You might not have all the options to choose from at any given time, but you still have the ability to make a choice.
We can ask for fairness. We can try to force fairness. But in the end it’s up to ourselves to see and accept that things aren’t always what we feel they should be. And the only way forward from there is to lead. To be as fair as we can. Maybe that’ll inspire others to do the same.
William Zinsser said: “What I want to do is make people laugh so that they’ll see things seriously”.
Louis C.K said something that we all need to be reminded of sometimes: “The only time you should look in your neighbor’s bowl is to make sure that they have enough. You don’t look in your neighbor’s bowl to see if you have as much as them.”