“Let your heart guide you. It whispers so listen closely.” – Littlefoot’s Mother, The Land Before Time (1988)
So you’ve got a big decision ahead of you?
First you need to ask the questions that need answering.
When you’ve reflected on the issues and made a consequence analysis it’s time to think of possible solutions.
Once you’ve got some solutions decide on the most beneficial one and implement it. Easy no?
One would think that it should be. Alas, this is not human nature. We are blessed and cursed with feelings. Feelings? Those weird little inklings that tell us something is good or bad? Humbug! We’re intelligent, evolved creatures. Feelings be damned!
It’s not clear what exactly drives our decisions, science is at a loss. There’s no rhyme, reason or logic. Sometimes we feel that something is right or wrong from the get-go. What happens? We end up doing the opposite! We rationalize and think that “my feelings must be fooling me, let’s think it through!”.
Only thing worse than a wrong decision? No decision. Things just go along and are washed away by the tide. A slow, unproductive process.
The two extremes that are dangerous? The people who try to think their way out of a problem and the people who fly by the seat of their pants.
The “think your way out”-crowd tend to go against their feelings. This often leads to emotionless decisions. May be good strategically, but you wouldn’t want that kind of a proposal. “All the data points to the optimal solution being for us to get married. If you turn your pamphlet to page 3 you’ll see a graph…”
The “seat-of-the-pants”-people ar impulsive and at times reckless to the impact their decisions have on themselves and other people.
Now, in the middle? That’s where you want to be.
But what it all comes down to is: Does it feel right?
If it doesn’t feel right, it doesn’t help if it makes sense. This isn’t calculable. There’s no formula.
When you’re dealt a blow and things don’t work out the way you’d like it’s tough.
But do what you feel is right and the right things will follow.
“A good decision is based on knowledge and not on numbers.” – Plato
“Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Money is a short-term result that incentivizes short-term decision making.” – Simon Sinek
“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” – Tony Robbins
“I made a decision to write for my readers, not to try to find more readers for my writing.” – Seth Godin
Seth Godin – Fail Until You Succeed