“Life isn’t fair. it’s true, and you still have to deal with it, Whining about it rarely levels the playing field, but learning to rise above it is the ultimate reward.” – Harvey Mackay
When we whine it’s because we feel helpless in a matter. We’re good people, why aren’t we rewarded and why are those other people who aren’t doing the right thing getting ahead? Nobody listens to us! Woe is meeee!
You aren’t hopeless, helpless or hapless. Look at the reason behind why you are whining. There’s a drive. You want to change something. You might think that people are working against you, and they might be. But so what? If you’re in an environment that doesn’t welcome change? Welcome to planet earth. People generally don’t like change.
You can do one of two things: Whine or Shine.
Whining = Noticing what’s wrong and resigning to the fact that it won’t change.
Shining = Noticing what’s wrong and doing something about it.
The inherent danger with Shining at a workplace or in the world are all the negative voices saying that it’s useless or that you’re wrong. Both the outside voices and the ones inside ourselves.
People who are leaders/bosses/authorities don’t tend to go around telling people that they should go changing things. Initiative isn’t given, it’s taken!
If you truly want something to change, you have to be willing to change it yourself. Lead by example!
In the words of Mahatma Gandhi: “You must be the change you want to see in the world.” (Russell Brand did a great bit about it in his new show “Messiah Complex”)
Here’s an interesting lecture for any songwriters out there! If you get a chance to pick up Ralph Murphy’s “Murphy’s Laws of Songwriting”. Funny, intelligent and a must read! =D
Ralph Murphy – How to be Successful at Songwriting